Tiny Victories: The Moments That Keep Me Writing
February 20, 2026
Sometimes I think, when you’re an editor who’s only “kind of” a writer on the side, it’s hard to think of yourself as a “real” writer. It is for me, anyway. After all, I’m in the biz and I know the realities: I’m never going to be a rich and famous author like some of the people I work with. I’m lucky to have a dozen or two people who even bother to read anything I write.
That’s why I need to rely on tiny victories—little moments when I do something that feels “writerly”—to keep myself going and keep myself writing even when it seems like there’s hardly any point to it.
So what are a few of those “tiny victories”?
Well, for me, one of the best is when I go back and read something I wrote a while back and discover it’s actually halfway decent. I know a lot of writers are constantly editing and reviewing their own work even as they write a first draft, but I never—and I mean NEVER—do that. To me, that Inner Critic we all have inside, whose whole job is to make us feel unworthy, is an entity I do my best to avoid, so I never revisit even a short piece of writing without allowing days, weeks, months, even years (preferably MANY years!) to pass first.
Often, when I go back to something I wrote, it’s been so long since I wrote it that the piece—hell, the entire concept—is entirely unfamiliar. I’m not only able to look at it with fresh eyes, but I’m able to read it as a true stranger would. I write so much (and read even more) that it’s easy to forget the details of something I wrote ages ago. The victorious part comes on those rare occasions when I read one of those old pieces and find out that it’s pretty good, or even funny. Once, I recall reading a line in the draft of a novel that made me laugh out loud. Yes, I was laughing at my own wit, but it had been so long since I had made up the joke that it was entirely new to me. THAT is a nice little victory.
The second kind of little victory that keeps me going, even when it seems pointless, is . . . this. Knowing that there are people here ready to read what I’ve written lately feels like a huge win. Sure, there may not be many of you, but for me, it’s less about quantity than quality, and the handful of readers I’ve gathered are just amazing people. So I consider it a victory that anybody even cares, even just a little bit, that I’m writing.
But the biggest little victory, I have to say, is the one I go back to every day, the one I’m always harping on, the one you’re probably sick of hearing about, but hey, it really works! It’s my “One Sentence a Day.”
Although the practice started off, way back in April 2012, as a way to force myself to do at least SOMETHING every day on my work in progress, it’s become more. A LOT more.
It’s the thing that keeps me grounded, reminds me of my bigger goals, and lets me feel at least kind of “writerly” every single day. I may not write as much as I’d like to, but by writing at least one sentence every single day for 14 years, I’ve written a lot more than a WHOLE lot of people out there who not only consider themselves “real” writers but can also be (sorry!) a little bit braggy about it. My One Sentence a Day is a small victory, but it’s added up to 14 entire years of daily writing, and I think that counts as a pretty big win.
So, all you writers out there, what about you? What are YOUR tiny victories? I want to know!
I’m Not a Writing Machine: Making My Peace with Inconsistent Productivity
February 13, 2026
In my day job, I often joke that although I consider myself a fairly talented editor, I’m not a robot—and that fact is one of my biggest regrets. I mean, how easy would my job, and maybe life in general, be if I could never make a mistake?
But the one aspect of my life where I really do wish I could be a machine is writing.
Now, those of you who know me may be scoffing. After all, I am the “inventor” of the #OneSentenceADay movement, where we commit to writing at least ONE sentence on our work in progress every single day, no excuses. And yes, when it comes to cranking out that single sentence, I am, in fact, a machine. I haven’t skipped a day—not through illness or depression or busyness or laziness or even major surgery—since I first came up with the concept back in April 2012. But when it comes to “real” writing, by which I mean a LOT more than one sentence, I’m as far from machine-like as a writer can get.
It’s not that I’m not disciplined (I don’t think), because I’m super disciplined in a lot of ways. I mean, after all, I drag my exhausted, insomniac butt out of bed by around 4:30 a.m. most days so I can run or walk the dog or both before starting the “real” work of the day. But something about writing gets my resistance up, and all too often, I find an excuse not to sit down and DO the thing I’m supposed to be so good at that people pay me to help others do it. (Pathetic, huh?)
I often find myself reading about the lives of famous authors or reading books by “experts” who claim to have perfected “systems” for writing. Nothing works for me, at least not for long.
When I read about people who routinely write a thousand words (or more!) every single day, people who spend hours with pen in hand or fingers on keyboard, I think, “HOW???” Yes, I can easily sit there and write my One Sentence a Day without fail, but all too often, that’s all I can stomach. Sure, I do have the occasional feverish burst of writing energy, where I pump out several pages in a short(ish) sitting and wonder why I can’t do it more often, but I have come to realize that I can’t. Even though I know that writing is the one thing that makes me feel sane and productive and “good,” it’s still all too difficult to make myself DO it.
I’ve tried all the tricks the “experts” suggest: creating “rituals” around writing (which always ended up as an excuse for shopping, with me buying crap like weird hats or fancy candles I don’t need and then STILL not writing); establishing a daily page quota (which always degenerates into me playing around in a journal to achieve the daily goal rather than working on my actual novel—apparently, I’m okay with following the letter, rather than the spirit, of the “laws” I impose on myself); and so on.
The thing is: I may not sit for hours and write. I may not spend time locked in a room producing vast quantities of prose. I may do the absolute bare minimum. But somehow? I still get it done. Just last week, I finished the first draft of what I was shocked to realize was my 39th book. Sure, it’ll be years before I get around to DOING anything with the draft (if I ever even bother), but it exists, and it obviously exists because, at some point, I eked out just enough productivity in my weird, inconsistent, mostly One Sentence a Day kind of way to write it.
I guess what works for all those hardworking, burning-the-candle-at-both-ends kinds of writers just doesn’t work for me. But whatever I’m doing seems to be good enough, and I suppose I need to make peace with that.
So how about you? Are you a quota-driven, no-excuses writer or are you hit-and-miss, barely doing the smallest bit kind of writer like me? I hope I’m not the only one out there!
That One Teacher Who Told Me I Could Write
February 6, 2026
When it comes to this topic, I guess I’m luckier than the average writer/editor, because from the time I could pick up a pen, I had teachers telling me I could write. As always, I give the credit for my supposed writing “talent” to the fact that I started reading at a very early age (and have kept reading, even to the present day, with the voracity of a wolverine feasting on a moose carcass). It wasn’t me who had the knowhow; it was the hundreds of great writers who came before me, whose words I was absorbing and learning from every day.
Still, there was one particular teacher who made me feel like I could write well, and not just when it came to drafting reports and other school assignments. That teacher was William Norris, one of my English teachers at Carl H. Kumpf Middle School.
This is not to diminish the contributions of other teachers (including Mrs. Goldstein, who—if you read a recent post of mine—got me into the fabled “Young Authors Conference” where I “published” my first “book,” Baby and His Parents). The reason Mr. Norris stands out for me is because he treated me almost as a peer, in regard to both reading and writing.
For example, one day I showed up for his class carrying the paperback copy of The Canterbury Tales that I had started reading over the weekend. To this day, I can perfectly picture the look of surprise and delight on Mr. Norris’s face when he glimpsed the book and declared, “Geoffrey Chaucer! What seventh-grader reads Geoffrey Chaucer?! Only Tara Tomczyk!”
The day he told me he thought I was a “real” writer is another one that stands out in vivid color in my mind.
It was our first writing assignment using a new grading system that went from 0 to 6 (6 being the best), rather than letter grades or our usual 0 to 4 grading system. It was right around Thanksgiving, and the instructions were to write a journal entry about a typical Thanksgiving in our household.
Easy enough, I thought. In fact, maybe it seemed a little TOO easy.
So, instead of describing the turkey dinner or the parade on TV or the simmering tensions among extended family members like most kids in class, I chose to focus on the unseen part of the holiday, those early-morning hours before the dinner actually took place. I decided to chronicle—in excruciating detail—the way my mother took such incredible pains to make sure the house was immaculate, everything in place, before cooking the holiday dinner. In particular, I remember one line about how she would squat down to make sure she cleaned even the impossible-to-see dust that gets into the crevices between the slats of the dining chairs. (For some reason, my mom viewed my mentioning that detail as an insult to her housekeeping rather than the compliment I intended.)
When Mr. Norris read the piece, he gave me a grade of 6 and pulled me aside to tell me, “You are a writer. A real writer. Never forget that.”
I’m sad to report that Mr. Norris passed away not too long ago. Although we had reconnected on Facebook in his later years, we never got a real chance to catch up beyond superficial social media stuff, and I regret that. So I’ll just send my gratitude for his support into the universe and hope it reaches him. And since I’m lucky enough to still have my mom with me, I’ll extend my belated apologies for writing publicly about the nonexistent dust on her chairs. Sorry, Mom.
But like Mr. Norris told me, I’m a writer, and we writers WILL use whatever material we find around us, including a dusty chair.
The First Story I Ever Wrote (And Why It Still Matters)
January 30, 2026
Okay, I’ll be honest: I don’t recall the first story I ever wrote. I know it was during kindergarten, after listening to our teacher read our class a book about a family living in a place with brutal, snowy winters (kind of like what’s outside my window as I write this). There was a character named Phoebe, a name I’d never heard before but liked so much, I had to write a story featuring someone with the same name (and yes, before you ask, I DID ask the teacher how to spell it—even at age 5, I tried to avoid spelling mistakes when possible).
So no, I don’t remember the “Phoebe” story, which I believe was the first I ever wrote, but I DO remember the first story anybody else paid attention to, only because my second-grade teacher, Mrs. Goldstein, liked it so much, she signed me up for something called the “Young Authors Conference.” It sounds fancy, but it was really just a bunch of elementary school kids who had written stories sitting around a conference table, while the adults running the program helped us “bind” the sheets of construction paper with our stories written on them into “books” and pretend like we were being published. Kind of lame, yes, but still kind of an honor for an 8-year-old.
My “book” was called Baby and His Parents. In case that sounds even remotely like a clever title to you, you’ll realize you’re wrong when I tell you that the story was about a young fawn (with the SUPER imaginative name “Baby”) and—you guessed it!—his parents.
The thing is, the story might have been (no, definitely WAS) stupid. But looking back with the distance of time and the knowledge of creative writing I’ve gained over (almost) 30 years as a professional writer and editor, I can say that it did, in fact, have some (not many) literary merits.
The gist of the story is that Baby is bored with the cozy life he lives in the forest with his doting deer parents and decides he needs a new adventure. So he sets out to see what the world has to offer. The extent of his “hero’s journey,” as the editor in me would now call the basic story arc, was limited to night falling and Baby getting scared (and going home as soon as his parents found him—which was an easy task for them, as his “journey” apparently only encompassed a few yards away from their home).
Still, I find it somewhat impressive that I already had such a solid understanding of how stories work even at such a young age. I mean, it wasn’t like we were writing lots of plot-driven stories in school in first and second grade. Many of the kids in my class were still struggling just to form legible letters on paper, not grappling with the finer points of character development and plot holes.
I attribute my “success” to the fact that, even at that early age, I was reading stories almost nonstop, so I was probably picking up on all kinds of things about characterization and story structure without even realizing it. Perhaps this is why I always tell the writers I work with that they need to be reading at least twice as much as they’re writing (if not more).
Despite decades of being embarrassed by my “first story” (which I still have, by the way—see the photo below; yes, unfortunately, I did do the cover illustration), I think the time has come to embrace my youthful attempt to create something special. Yes, it was dorky and in no way original, but (I realize now) it DID make me feel like I was a “writer,” and that (to plagiarize Robert Frost) has made all the difference.
Burnout Feels Like This: The Signs I’ll Look Out for, for Next Time . . .
January 22, 2026
If you read my recent post about how I’m changing things up this New Year, trying to do less and still get things done, you know I ended 2025 in a severe state of burnout. For those fortunate few among you who’ve never been to the balmy land of burnout, here’s just a brief overview of what it looks like, at least from my perspective, so you know you’ve arrived in this not-so-exotic place.
For me, the first sign is the anger.
Now, don’t get me wrong. I’m a naturally irritable person. I can get pissed off if you forget to return your shopping cart at the grocery store or cut me off in traffic. In fact, I can get FURIOUS.
But when I find myself getting mad at things I can usually let go—like how inordinately long it takes my dog to pee at night when I’m ready to go to bed—I know something is off with my psyche.
The second hint is the weeping.
Although I’m no heartless rock, I’m not one to cry easily. In fact, I’ve had people tell me they choose to sit next to me at funerals because they know I’m good at holding it together, so they know I won’t get the people around me started on some kind of communal crying jag.
So, if I’m suddenly bursting into tears while watching random old reality shows like What Not to Wear or Deadliest Catch (not exactly tear-jerker content), I know I’ve got something deeper going on.
But the biggest sign is the general sense of overwhelm.
See, I’m a hard worker. I might even go so far as to classify myself as a workaholic. I love to be busy. I’m that dork at work or in class back in school who literally leapt for joy when the boss or teacher assigned a big project. I am in no way averse to having a lot on my plate.
So, when I feel like my regular workload is just too much, like I need more downtime or (God forbid) an actual vacation, the burnout has arrived.
The scary part is that, looking back now, it’s easy to see how obvious the signs of burnout were. Yes, I know, hindsight is 20/20. In the moment, though, when I was going through it—when anyone is going through it—it’s all too easy to just keep following your usual routine and ignoring the car alarm going off inside your head.
Which is probably why it took me several months, a near-suicidal bout of depression, and, of course, some time OFF from the regular grind to step back and reflect a little before I was able to see the truth and start facing reality.
But better late than never, I guess. And at least I know what to look for—you know, for next time. Because let’s be real: There WILL be a next time. I am, after, still very much a work in progress.
New Year, New Mindset
January 14, 2026
I’ve been doing it wrong—life, I mean—for a while now.
I knew something was “off” because I often felt like crap, but it was only recently that I figured out why.
I’m a goal-oriented kind of person, and always have been. And though I don’t make New Year resolutions (I hate the idea of having to “resolve” something, like my life is an outstanding error of some kind), I always set New Year goals, and this year was no exception. After the 2025 I had—overloaded with work and difficulties and a depression that just wouldn’t quit—I knew I needed some big changes.
Here’s what I realized, just as 2025 turned to 2026: I have been operating for half a decade as if I’m still living in 2015.
By that, I mean I seem to have forgotten that a WHOLE lot of things have changed since I launched my publishing company, Blydyn Square Books, back in 2015. In those days, I was working strictly on a freelance basis, with no full-time job. I had a ton of extra time on my hands. Besides that, I didn’t own a home, I had only a handful of friends (most of whom lived in another state, so I didn’t see them all that often), and I just didn’t have a ton of responsibility.
For the first few years of Blydyn Square Books’ existence, we published only one, MAYBE two books, each year, so it was easy to keep up with the work of editing, designing, and selling those books mostly on my own.
Flash-forward 10 years to 2025, and my whole world had changed.
In addition to running Blydyn Square (which now had a roster of about 20 titles and had 4 or more new books on the schedule each year), I also had a full-time job that I love, working for the amazing Innovative Designs for Education (IDE), doing my small part to help educators and their students change the world.
On top of that, I now own a home, run a small nonprofit arts networking group, and attempt to have some semblance of a social with people I actually see now and then in the flesh.
My world had transformed in 10 years, but my mindset—the assumption that I could handle everything all by myself without ever getting tired or burned out—had not.
Over the recent holiday break, this realization hit me like a falling oak tree: I can’t do it all by myself, not anymore. I need to do less (and somehow still achieve more), and I need to—egad!—ask for help sometimes.
It was a painful epiphany, but a freeing one.
No, I can’t do it all. I can’t even do as much as I’ve BEEN doing, not if I want to do it all as well as I expect. I’m only one person, and I’m a person who—on occasion—needs to do something besides just work on fixing other people’s writing.
So my New Year's goal this year is to find some kind of balance, to admit to myself and to everyone around me that I can’t do it all, but I can still do everything that needs to be done. And that? Is okay.
The Mystery of the Lie and the Colon
January 5, 2026
Back in April 1999, I had to go to the hospital for an emergency appendectomy. They kept me for three nights, from Sunday through Wednesday.
As a busy, overworked young editor, I had often wished for a minor illness or surgery to give me a little free time to read and relax, to get away from my manuscripts and red pens and stress for just a little while. Unfortunately, when it actually happened, the reality kind of sucked because they placed the IV in my hand in such a way that holding even a magazine felt like hell, which made reading a book (I was reading Proust at the time) entirely out of the question.
So, what's a reader/writer to do when she can't read or write? The only thing she can do: observe.
Sure, there was a TV, but it was, oh, maybe 10 inches, and it only got the three major networks at the time, plus the hospital's own cable access channel (and there's only so much patient trivia a person can play, especially when the prize for getting the question right was a deck of cards, which I couldn't use any more than I could read a book).
Instead of watching TV, I watched the people around me. There were the doctors and nurses and other hospital staff, of course, but there were also streams of visitors, not to mention patients being forced to walk the halls to get them moving again after their operations.
More curious, though, was my roommate.
She checked in on Monday, a day after my Sunday afternoon surgery, so I was already antsy and bored and wishing I could go home. I was more than ready for a diversion, and boy, did this woman give me one.
For all of Monday, she ignored me, other than giving me curt nods as she passed by my bed on her way to our shared bathroom. But she had a massive family, all of whom seemed to be visiting in large groups, so she was never alone. Maybe it was good I couldn't hold a book because I couldn't have read anyway with all the racket they were making.
One thing I should mention: My roommate and her entire extended family spoke Spanish, and it clearly didn't occur to any of them that the chubby blond girl in the next bed with the missing appendix could understand every word they were saying.
Not that they were saying anything nasty or anything about me at all. Like my roommate, the whole family seemed to be oblivious to my existence (all the better for my surreptitious people-watching).
Anyway, by Tuesday, when my roommate was scheduled for her own surgery, I had overheard multiple conversations between her and her family, and between her and her doctors. Back then, my Spanish was even better than it is now, so I knew the reason she was in the hospital: She had something wrong with her colon.
That Tuesday afternoon, when her family left and she was getting ready for surgery, I was stunned when she finally spoke to me . . . in English.
“What's wrong with you?” she demanded.
I was almost too shocked to reply, but when I managed to recover my wits enough to formulate thoughts, I told her that I had had my appendix out.
She nodded and tapped her palm against her chest. “It's my heart,” she told me. “I need an operation on my heart.”
Part of me wanted to call her out on the lie. I mean, come on. Even a brand-new Spanish speaker knows the word for “heart” (and I’m guessing even a complete non-Spanish speaker knows it's not the same as the word for “colon”). But I've never been a confronter, and besides, her lie left me reeling, intellectually speaking.
Why, I wondered, would she lie?
Was she embarrassed to have me, a stranger, know the truth? Did she somehow think having colon problems was “uncool”? Or did she not know the reality of her own medical condition? Was she just delusional? What, possibly, could her motive be for not telling the truth? Why go out of her way—after more than 24 hours of studious silence when it came to me—to tell a falsehood? It made no sense.
Even now, so many years later, I can't figure out what she was thinking. It has (obviously) haunted me all this time. I think it's because I'm a writer and I feel the need to understand the motives behind a character's actions, whether that character is fictitious or a real-life human.
I guess the question is: Can we ever truly understand someone's motivations, or can we only know what they say and do? I like to think that we can understand people, especially when it comes to the characters that we write. I mean, if we can’t understand people, then what’s the point of being in a society and interacting with one another? There has to be hope for us to truly see eye to eye, right?
But then I remember my hospital roommate, and I think I'll never, ever, even for a second, understand other human beings.
The One Thing That Gets Me Writing When I Don’t Want to
December 9, 2025
I haven’t been posting lately (sorry!). I’ve had a lot going on, including the lingering effects of the semi-crippling depression I’ve already told you about recently. Though I may not have been posting, I have still been writing—maybe not as much as I do when I’m feeling happy and optimistic (as opposed to depressed, hopeless, and borderline suicidal)—but yeah, I’ve been writing.
That fact got me thinking: What, exactly, IS it that keeps me writing even when the world is falling down around me? And here’s what I think is the answer:
First off, there’s reading.
Despite the fact that a scary-large number of the authors I’ve worked with admit that they don’t read much (or at all), I can’t imagine not reading—not for a day, practically not for an hour (which may be why I chose to read for a living). What I’ve learned over the years is that I love to read not just because I love to lose myself in a great story (or another world entirely), but also because reading always—ALWAYS—inspires me to write.
Next, there’s habit (and maybe just a smidge of discipline, but not much!).
My “#OneSentenceADay” writing routine, going on now for almost 14 years, is one habit I just can’t break. It’s become such an integral part of my daily life that I will drag myself to my computer or notebook to jot down my one (or more) sentence no matter how awful I might feel. Discipline plays a part, I think, but for me, it’s less about forcing myself to write than it is telling myself “I’ll feel better if . . .” That is, I know I’ll be better off if I write, even when I have no desire to do so, than if I skip it. So, I tell myself that I only need to do a little (as little as “one sentence”) . . . and usually it turns into more.
Finally, and most important, the thing that keeps me writing when I don’t want to is fear.
Fear is by far my number-one motivator. What, you might ask, am I afraid of? A few things: I’m terrified of breaking my streak of daily writing, which, as I’ve already mentioned, has been going on since the spring of 2012. Doing something every single day for over a decade makes you feel invested in it and you become pretty reluctant to give it up.
But more than that, I fear myself. If I could ever let myself break that streak, undoing all those years of dedication and hard work, I’m capable of anything—and not in a good way, but in a dark, scary way.
So yeah. I’ll keep writing, at least my one sentence a day, even when I really, REALLY don’t want to, just because the alternative scares me more than any horror movie.
How Becoming an Editor Changed the Way I Read
October 31, 2025
I’ve always been a reader. I think I was around two when I first learned to read, and I was reading full books (kids’ books, but books nonetheless) on my own by the time I was three.
Reading has always been my favorite thing. I’d say “hobby,” but that word is so small and insignificant and has such a trivial connotation. And there’s nothing small or insignificant or trivial about reading, at least not for me.
It’s the center of my universe—always has been. So it shouldn’t surprise anyone that it ended up becoming my career, my life’s work.
But I have to admit, there is a line in the sand in my life when it comes to reading. There’s a “before” and an “after,” and that line can be placed precisely on the calendar in the summer of 1996, when I first became a professional editor.
So, you might ask, how exactly did becoming an editor change reading for me? There are a few ways, actually.
Before taking a job as an editor, I would never have considered writing inside of a book. I wouldn’t even crack a book’s spine (even a cheap mass-market paperback). To damage or alter a book in any way would have felt like sacrilege to me. I always believed a book should look and feel as pristine after being read as before I opened it.
Since becoming an editor? Marking up manuscripts has turned me into a monster. I can’t let errors go, even in published books. I need to point them out, fix them. I’m almost compelled to do it. I think it’s partly a fear that whoever reads the book after I do will find the mistake and think I didn’t catch it . . . and that would be tragic (in my warped little mind). I admit, I even fix errors I find in library books (though I use a pencil instead of pen for those . . .).
Another change in my reading habits since becoming an editor is how difficult I find it to just enjoy a story anymore. I see too much—the minor inconsistencies (for example, a floor made of concrete suddenly becoming wood in another chapter, or a character—I’m looking at YOU, Nancy Drew!—who is interchangeable a blonde or a redhead).
Now that I’m a “professional,” I’m much too focused on the details and problems to ever truly abandon myself and fully join the fictitious world, which is something I did with every new book I read as a child. I miss that.
Finally, I’ve become much less willing to give writers or stories the benefit of the doubt. If a story has one flaw, it’s essentially garbage in my “professional” mindset. To be fair, I tend to blame the editor of a bad book rather than the writer when I find a gaping plot hole or a lower-middle-class character talking on a cell phone in 1979. (This, of course, is probably also why I find so many self-published books impossible to read . . . because in most of those cases, there IS no editor to save the writer from him- or herself.)
The thing is, even though reading has become much less of a pleasure or escape for me than it was before I started doing it for a living, I do more of it—even in my free time—than ever these days. Before becoming an editor, I probably averaged around 50 books a year. Now, it’s closer to 150 (not counting the manuscripts I edit for work).
So, clearly, I still love to read. And why not? It IS the best way ever invented to spend your time, right?
My Favorite (Unused) Writing Prompt
October 22, 2025
Today, I want to talk about my favorite unused writing prompt. First things first, here’s the prompt:
“A woman is trying to stop a lifelong habit: biting her nails. Write about the swirling thoughts and emotions going through her mind as she fights against the impulse to put her finger in her mouth.”
Second thing you should know is that the reason I chose this one as my favorite is because I (just this week) learned that I have an OCD condition called dermatillomania, where you have a compulsion to pick at your skin—for me, it’s always been the skin around my fingernails. (Although I’ve known for decades I have this problem, I didn’t realize until this week that it had a fancy name!)
I believe the problem started back when I was around 10 years old and used to bite my actual nails, rather than the skin around them. I stopped biting my nails after my father promised me $50 (big money for a little kid, especially back then!) if I could break the habit. I immediately stopped biting my nails, but soon after getting the money, I started biting and/or picking at hangnails, dead skin, my cuticles, or whatever was handy. In essence, I traded one gross habit for an even more disgusting one. (After all, fingernails, unlike skin, don’t bleed when you bite them!)
So yeah, this particular writing prompt hits close to home. (But don’t despair for the health and beauty of my poor dry finger skin: In addition to learning my compulsion has an actual name, I also learned that there are ways to stop doing it, including picking at specially designed fidget toys . . . which I have tried and found to be AWESOME!!!)
Anyway, the third thing you should know is that the writing prompt I chose (and have never used, at least until right now, sort of) comes from a book of writing prompts that I wrote myself a few years back. And if I’m entirely honest, I didn’t just not use THIS prompt. I’ve never used ANY of the prompts in either of the two writing prompt books I’ve written!
More truth: I very rarely use writing prompts at all. If I’m free writing or journaling, I normally just let whatever comes to mind be my focus. But I may be reconsidering. Just reading the writing prompt about the woman trying to stop biting her nails has brought back a flood of very vivid memories for me, everything from sitting in the hard wooden pew at church, with my hands pressed under my legs so I couldn’t bite my nails, to the color of the hat and gloves set I bought a relative that Christmas, using part of the $50 I earned by breaking my bad habit.
So many images and emotions—swirling thoughts, just like in the prompt—are running through my brain as I think back to that time. Clearly, that one little line of text had a powerful suggestive influence on me.
Maybe I should give my own writing prompts a try more often. 🙂
So, writers, what do you think? Do you get any use out of writing prompts? Should I start giving them a try?
Writing Is Not Therapy (But Sometimes It’s Close)
October 18, 2025
If you’ve read my posts recently, you already know I’ve been struggling with my seasonal depression the past several weeks. As much as I hate to “jinx” it, I definitely feel like I’ve turned a corner lately, and I’m starting to feel almost like my usual self (and, at times, even better than that).
So, what’s the secret to the transformation?
Partly, it’s simply the change in the weather. Here in New Jersey, despite the switch to autumn a few weeks back, we had an extended heat wave that left me feeling grumpy and tense (a natural reaction to the sensation that your brain is melting, in my humble opinion). Now that the temperatures are finally dropping, my natural good cheer is returning. (Those of you who know me well can stop laughing RIGHT NOW. I’m a delight, dammit!)
Related to the improving weather is the fact that I’ve been able to get out to run a lot more, and running is the thing that (almost) manages to keep me sane, even when life gets rough.
But if I’m entirely honest, the thing that played the biggest role in helping me overcome my depression was . . . writing.
Here’s the thing: I get depressed every summer, but this is the first summer I forced myself to do more than just my standard “One Sentence a Day” no matter how crappy I felt. Sure, I didn’t write as much as “cheerful me” would, and I certainly wasn’t writing anything brilliant or even publishable. Mostly, I was using my writing time to, well, whine about my life.
Which is exactly what I’d be doing with a therapist, if I had one. Somehow, writing has taken over that role. It lets me vent. It helps me take a good, hard look at problems. And, often, it helps me find the solution to those problems.
So, yeah, maybe writing isn’t technically therapy. But it’s pretty damn close.
The Alchemy of Editing:
How I Know When a Manuscript Is “Almost” Ready
October 11, 2025
What I want to talk about today is how I know—after one or 5 or 30 edits—when a book is pretty much as good as it's going to get and is ready to push ahead, toward layout and design, and eventually the printer and ultimately, the book buying market. If you're not an editor, I'm guessing there's a good chance you imagine even the first draft I see of a new manuscript comes in pretty good. You'd be wrong, but that's not the point I'm trying to make.
What I want to say is this: Very few books (at least, in my experience—and I have almost 30 years of it) hit my desk in a state where they look/feel/sound to my trained eyes and ears like a “real book” (for lack of a better phrase).
Anyone who’s had to critique a peer’s essay in an English composition class probably knows what I mean. Too often, writing just doesn't “sound” like . . . well, writing. Many (most?) writers are trying so hard to make their writing “good” that they end up making it “fake” (if that makes any sense). The vocabulary comes across as phony or “off.” The dialogue or description reads forced or stilted. Somehow, the prose just doesn't quite work.
Most manuscripts people submit have these exact same problems. It takes a hell of a lot of work (and decades of time reading great books to develop the “ear” for the task) to turn an English class essay (so to speak) into a full-on novel that somebody besides the author’s own mother might actually want to read.
Of course, some manuscripts are better, from the start, than others, but I’ve rarely had one that didn’t need several heavy-duty read-throughs to get the writing just right. Whether that takes two edits or 50 is anybody’s guess. But eventually, through some process of experimentation and finesse and, yes, even a sort of literary alchemy, it happens.
So, how do I know when the manuscript is “ready”? That’s easy: The moment I can read through the entire thing without reaching for my pen (or my keyboard) to make more edits is one sign. But the bigger sign is when I find myself no longer thinking about editing at all; the manuscript is “done” when I’m simply reading (and enjoying the experience) because the manuscript has been transformed through my editorial alchemy, not into gold, but into a “real book.”
When the Muse Goes Missing
October 4, 2025
I haven’t been writing enough lately.
Now, before you start throwing that statement in my face and shouting “I told you so” because you think I’m just being bitchy when I say there’s no such thing as writer’s block, let me clarify something: I am NOT blocked. I’m depressed. And maybe a little (or a lot) lazy. There’s a difference.
I CAN write. In fact, though I’m not doing enough of it, I DO write. (Obviously, I’m writing this.) But it’s not reaching the level of productivity where the writing can sustain me—my mood, my motivation, my . . . whatever. (Soul, maybe?)
See what I mean? I’m not writing the way I should be—by which I mean prolifically and easily and with enough abandon to feel artistic and smart and like I’m doing the thing I’m here on this dopey planet to do.
I haven’t written a ton about my mood issues or my tendency to fall into a deep depression, especially during the hot summer months when I feel like my brain is melting and I can barely stand to keep moving, much less trying to be creative. Those who know me well know how much the depression can knock me off my game, but I try to keep it—mostly—to myself.
But right now, my regularly scheduled summertime depression is hitting late and drifting into autumn (which is normally my favorite season and a time of renewal and increased energy for me), so I’m not doing great. Throw in some other unfortunate incidents to make me feel even worse, and it’s turned into a perfect storm that’s keeping me from doing much of . . . well, anything.
That’s the bad news.
The good news is this: Even the worst depression can’t touch a truly ingrained habit . . . like my “One Sentence a Day.”
No matter how shitty or unmotivated I may feel, I continue to crank out at least one sentence a day on each work in progress I’ve got going. Maybe I’m not exactly stacking up the finished pages of my next book, but I’m still moving forward, even just a little, every day.
I need to focus on that, especially when the sad/angry little voice in the back of my head keeps telling me things like “It’s not worth it; skip the one sentence for today.” Because that voice is real and it’s cruel, and if I let it have its way, everything really will fall apart.
So, for today, I’ll just acknowledge the fact that I’m not where I want to be. And I’ll write my sentences even if/when they suck. And I’ll ignore the voice and hope that, maybe tomorrow, this black dog that’s got me clamped in its rabid jaws will loosen its grip and maybe, soon, I’ll be free—free to write, for real, and to be the “me” I want to be and almost am when I’m writing enough.
That’s not happening today, but I can tell you, from decades of experience, that it WILL happen. The fog will lift, and when it does, I will write a whole hell of a lot more than one sentence a day.
So stay tuned. 😀
Write Without Fear, Edit Without Mercy
September 29, 2025
The sign above hangs on the wall directly across from where I’m sitting now as I type this. I bought it for myself as a Christmas gift a couple of years ago, thinking it would inspire me, remind me to not only write with less inhibition but to write at ALL (let’s face it: Facing the blank page isn’t always easy!).
For the most part, the sign has become mostly invisible, no more noticeable to me on the average day than the color of the walls (Creamsicle orange, thank you very much) or the scratches and marks of wear and tear on the surface of my desk. So I can’t exactly say the sign is fulfilling its intended purpose.
But I’ll be honest: It’s not the sign’s fault. It’s me. I’m the one failing to fulfill my purpose.
The reality is, I shouldn’t need the sign—or any other outward totem or symbol—to remind me of my whole purpose in this life. I don’t actually need inspiration; I need to get off my ass more often and be less lazy.
And I won’t speak for all of you, but I suspect this is probably true for most of us. So I invite you to join me as I resolve not just to write (or whatever it is YOU do), but to do it fearlessly and without inhibition.
We’ve gotta start somewhere, right?
From Mastery to Meh: The Troubling Shift from Dedication to Indifference and Entitlement in Modern Culture
August 25, 2025
Something has happened to our society over the past few decades. Maybe it’s been going on longer, but I can only speak to what I’ve witnessed myself, and what I can say without qualification is that there has been a definite shift over the past 30 years since I started my career in publishing: We appear to have transformed from a culture of achievement to a culture of laziness.
Now, don’t get all offended; I’m sure YOU are awesome—high-achieving, not lazy at all (just like me! 😀). But bear with me as I analyze the unmotivated masses surrounding us, okay?
As busy as I am (and as uninterested as I tend to be to popular culture), I’ve had no choice but to notice something troubling, because it’s THAT obvious: These days, we as a society seem to expect to receive (a lot) more in return for (a lot) less.
Modern people seem to be demanding a lot: Free or 75-cent ebooks. Six-figure salaries when they’re fresh out of college or even high school. Large tips for the cashier handing over a prepaid bag of takeout food that the cashier didn’t even help prepare. A publishing contract for a half-baked manuscript. Or, worse, bestseller status for a 70-page self-published file that can only loosely be called a “book.”
I admit, I see some of this trend toward laziness even in myself. Too often, I stop after writing my “One Sentence a Day” and declare it enough writing for the day. After all, it’s easier to doom scroll social media than to create an entire fictional world.
Sometimes it seems like the only people among us who are really TRYING anymore are the perfectionists—and they’re so focused on the impossibility of flawlessness that they never actually FINISH anything.
So we’re left with the garbage produced by the lazy contingent or the unfulfilled promise of the perfectionists’ impossible dream. We’ve changed from a world that valued mastery to one satisfied with—hell, impressed by—mediocrity. Our collective battle cry has become a resounding “Meh!”
Worse than the mediocrity, though, is the sense of entitlement so many of us have developed. We seem to expect to be rewarded for our most minimal efforts.
I see it in the attitude of the aspiring writers who submit work to Blydyn Square Books, where I’m editor in chief. They send work off-season. They send emails demanding special treatment. They ignore our guidelines. They refuse to pay any attention to detail—at least, I hope that’s what they’re doing, because it’s VERY common for someone to put down numbers like 150,789 in our submission form for the number of PAGES (as opposed to WORDS) in the manuscript being submitted. (That one is a red flag no matter how you look at it: Either you effed up and don’t know the difference between words and pages, or you have actually written an insanely long book that I most certainly do NOT want to read.)
These writers’ demanding attitude would be one thing if the quality of the prose I’m seeing had been steadily improving over time. You can deal with a lot of crap if it means you’re getting something fabulous in return. But the writing has NOT been improving, not by a long shot.
Thirty years ago, when I first started reading submissions at a small publishing house, most of the manuscripts didn’t receive a contract. That’s one thing that hasn’t changed. However, those “bad” manuscripts from the early years of my career were only “bad” in the sense that they weren’t right for OUR publisher. The writing itself was generally passable, and you would have been hard-pressed to find a typo in most of the submissions we received. Today? Almost the opposite is true. It’s no exaggeration to say that I’m lucky to see a single submission out of 50 that DOESN’T have a major error or obvious typo within the first paragraph. Seriously. And yet, the writers who send these sloppy submissions seem disgusted by the fact that the world isn’t throwing them a party to celebrate their “talent.”
Even more disturbing than the things I see from overly entitled writers (and, I assure you, I see some STUFF!) are the behaviors I witness in a social meetup I run. Somehow, by organizing the group and setting up events for the members, I seem to have inadvertently nominated myself to be everyone’s social director. No, it’s worse than that; many of them appear to believe I’m their parent.
If, say, there’s a guest limit for a happy hour at a bar/restaurant, and some members didn’t sign up fast enough to get on the “attending” list, they’ll message me begging to be allowed to come, and they’ll KEEP asking until I practically have to scream: “It’s a public place and I’m not your mother! Do whatever you want!”
So, what do all these behaviors have in common? They all stem from a refusal to take responsibility. In fact, it almost feels like nobody is interested in taking responsibility for anything: not their words, not their actions, and apparently not even their social lives. It’s as if a lot of people are hoping to get someone else on the hook so they’ll have a scapegoat to blame in case they don’t get precisely what they want. Years ago, it was a point of pride to take on as much responsibility as you could and to show off your mastery of a project or situation. Now we’ve swung in the opposite direction.
In my mind, this is a recent phenomenon, but just the other day, I found this quote in a book by Orison Swett Marden, published in 1894: “The trouble with many Americans is that they seem to think they can put any sort of poor, slipshod, half-done work into their careers and get first-class products.” So, clearly, this decline has been happening for even longer than I thought.
My question is: How and why did we get this way, as individuals and as a society? And the bigger question: How do we make it stop?
Let’s Streak!
(No, Not Like That, You Pervs)
August 18, 2025
Back around 2015, I read about a challenge in Runner’s World magazine: Run (at least) one mile every day between Thanksgiving and January 1. They called it “streaking”—keeping up a daily running streak during the most difficult weeks of the year, that period between Thanksgiving and New Year’s, when you’re most likely not only busier than usual with extra work and errands and cooking, but also tend to be eating in a less healthy way and (if you’re like me) drinking more wine than normal!
I immediately jumped on that bandwagon. Why? Because I’m already a dedicated streaker in other areas of my life, so why not add running to the list?
At the time of this writing, I have a few different streaks going:
I have done at least one language lesson on Duolingo every day since Christmas of 2013. (Unfortunately, it took me until sometime in February 2014 to realize that failing a lesson meant it didn’t count, so my official Duolingo streak is currently “only” 4,101 days. Oh, well.)
Since the week between Christmas and New Year’s of 2020, I have meditated for at least 5 minutes a day without fail (a streak that started when I saw how much my blood pressure had gone through the roof, and yes, the meditation has helped).
Finally, there’s my longest current streak: my “One Sentence a Day.” Back in January 2012, I made it a New Year’s Resolution to write something every single day, no excuses. I didn’t have to write a lot, just a daily minimum of one sentence. The plan was that I would not necessarily write more than that, but I would never write anything less.
So far, I’ve met that goal and held on to the streak. I’ve passed 13 and a half years of daily sentences (which have, over time, translated into something like 15 books and countless shorter works). I’ve written my one (or more) sentence every day, whether I was fighting a stomach flu, happy or depressed, even in the middle of the night in a hospital bed after having major surgery. At this point, if someone wants me to break this streak, they’re going to have to pry my pen (or phone) from my cold, dead hand.
In case you’re wondering how exactly you manage to keep up a streak that long, the answer is easy: Every time you consider skipping the task and breaking the streak, you ask yourself: “Will I feel better if I do it or if I don’t do it?” That one thought—“I’ll feel better IF . . .”—is the magical key to unlocking vast stores of discipline. (Shout-out to the friend who taught me this technique, the fabulous writer, life coach, and all-around inspiration Kathleen Carew!)
Or maybe you’re not wondering how to achieve a streak that lasts over a decade. Instead, you might be asking: What’s the point of streaking? As a friend and former long-distance runner put it when I told him about trying the Runner’s World daily mile challenge: “You put the miles in the bank.”
In other words, by forcing yourself to run (or learn languages or meditate or write or whatever you want to do), even just a tiny bit every day—no matter how busy or tired (or hung over) you are—you build your body’s stamina and you don’t lose valuable training. To become a great runner, you need to run often (even if it’s not every day), so you can “put the miles in the bank.” And to become a great writer you need to write often: Writing every day puts words in the bank.
Now, as I’ve said before, when I say you should write every day, I’m not saying you need to write an entire book or a chapter or even a whole page each day without fail. Few of the best streakers among us could keep up with that kind of schedule (though, I admit, I’ve recently started a one-full-page-a-day streak that’s about three months old and going strong . . .). But writing one quick sentence? Anybody can do that, and you don’t even have the excuse that you “need a rest day” like you do with running because you don’t risk shin splints or sore knees with writing.
So to all my fellow writers out there, I’m not asking you to crank out thousands of daily words. But I AM challenging you to become a streaker with me. Make it your goal, your mission, your “refuse to settle for less” habit to write at least something every single day.
Let’s streak!
The Magic of Flow
August 10, 2025
Seeing as most of the people who read anything I write are writers, I’m going to assume you all know what I mean when I talk about “flow.” (But, just in case, here’s a quick explanation for the uninitiated: Flow is a concept described by psychologist Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi. It’s a state of “optimal experience” that happens when you’re deeply absorbed in and thoroughly enjoying an activity.)
I’ve known about flow for years. I mean, obviously. It’s probably one of the main reasons most of us write—that magical sensation of getting caught up in something that matters, something that has real meaning. Flow is the thing that reminds you you’re doing something with your life, even on those inevitable days when you’re beaten down by all the other responsibilities and emergencies and demands on your time. For a brief moment, as a writer in flow, you get to look through an elusive window: the one that lets you imagine what your life could be like if you ever achieved that luxurious goal of becoming a full-time writer (you know, and actually surviving financially at the same time).
So, yeah, sure, flow is great, but something occurred to me this morning. As you already know if you’ve read some of my earlier posts, my personal rule is that I have to write at least one sentence a day on any work in progress I have going. I’m a chronic project starter, so it’s not unusual for me to have more than one novel or other piece going on at the same time. Right now, I’m simultaneously working on a YA novel in an ongoing series and a women’s fiction/smart romance book, so at the moment, I’m always writing at least TWO sentences a day.
Anyway, some days, there’s no flow involved: I’m just cranking out an easy sentence to fulfill my quota so I can move on to more pressing work for the day (in the life of an editor, doing your own writing is a privilege and most decidedly NOT a right). But other days, even if I only write a couple of new sentences on my own work in progress, the flow . . . well, flows.
I get sucked into whatever I’m writing and into the flow. Even a few minutes in flow leaves me numb and confused, wondering what time and even what day it is. It’s not just that I lose track of time; I lose track of this world, the real one. I feel like I’m transported, bodily and mentally, to the world I’m writing about, and I live there for as long as the flow lasts. And whether that’s two hours or two minutes, returning to the real world can be almost as hard as coming back home after a long trip. I feel spacey, almost swollen, kind of the way you feel during a fever, when your head is all . . . you know . . . balloon-like.
And as unpleasant as that sounds, when it happens because of flow (as opposed to fever), it’s actually a good feeling, because the symptoms are a physical sign of success. If you’ve left this world and fully entered another one, you’ve managed to create something close enough to reality to inhabit. You ARE there, if only for a little while. And sometimes, the fictional world has its advantages over our other one—there’s no getting away from that fact.
Sometimes I feel like all the other things I have to get done throughout the day are just the necessary glue binding the moments of flow together, because even the most “flowy,” the most prolific among us, would have to admit that you can’t spend all day, every day lost in some other world. But knowing you CAN get there and break away—even just for a moment—from the real world is a powerful motivator.
Which brings me to one other question that came up in my warped little head today: For people who DON’T write or make art or do anything creative, do you get to experience the magic of flow? If so, from what? And if not (and I shudder at the mere thought that it’s possible to live a whole life without flow), I need to know: What keeps you going? How do you stand the monotony, the drudgery, the pure awfulness of day-to-day crap if you don’t have the magical escape of flow waiting for you?
How Do You Rate?
August 4, 2025
Recently, at Blydyn Square Books, we did a weeklong feature on our social media accounts celebrating readers: giveaways, quotes about reading, that sort of thing.
Toward the end of the week, I posted a reminder for participants in our annual “Reading Challenge” to assess how far along they were from finishing. (This year’s challenge is to read 25 books for 2025. We offer a list—you know the kind: a book with a red cover, a book you loved as a child, etc.—but anybody who reads ANY 25 books is eligible for the raffle drawing for the prize at the end of the year because we care less about WHAT you read than THAT you read!).
Anyway, posting about the Reading Challenge forced me to review my own list of books I’ve read this year (122 and counting, thank you very much—too bad I’m not eligible to win the prize!). Something I quickly realized by taking a glance at my Goodreads account is that I haven’t really given a single book more than 3 stars this whole year (so far).
That’s when I realized that my rating system seems to differ from the norm, and I thought I’d share it . . . because honestly, I think my system is WAY better than what Goodreads has got going on!
Okay, here goes:
A single star goes to a book so bad you had to abandon it. It was too crappy to justify wasting the time to read it all the way through—and if you DID push through it, it’s because you had to (maybe it was a required read for work or school or your book club).
I give 2 stars to a book that was mostly bad, but somehow managed to hold your attention long enough to make it all the way to the end. Maybe there are plot holes or other flaws and you kept reading, hoping the author and editor would redeem themselves, but . . . not so much.
A book gets 3 stars if it was an enjoyable enough read but will have zero impact on your life in the long run. Think: most popular fiction. Even if you could barely put it down while reading it, if the story and characters are going to fly out of your head by the time you close the book for the last time, it doesn’t rate more than 3 stars. (For the record, almost ALL books receive three stars—or fewer—from me.)
A 4-star rating is rare, awardable only to books that make such a strong impression that you won’t forget them anytime soon, or maybe ever. Whether they’re fiction or nonfiction, these are the kinds of books that stick with you (and maybe even give you that odd, sickly “book hangover” feeling, where you can’t stop thinking about what you’ve read for hours or even days after you finish).
To achieve 5 stars, the author (unfortunately) has to make the ultimate sacrifice. That’s right: You can only get 5 stars if the author (a) has written a book that qualifies for my 4-star rating, i.e., one that changes your life in some way, AND (b) the author has been dead for at least 25 years, and his/her book still holds up.
Let’s be real and objective for a second: Giving something 5 stars means that something is perfect. There is ZERO room for improvement in any conceivable way. In my mind, even the greatest works of literature in history don’t measure up to that standard. That’s why I reserve the sacred 5th star for works that are not only terrific, but also hold up over the long term.
Needless to say, the members of my book club (shout-out to the Blydyn Square Book Club—woohoo!!!) think I’m slightly, well, batshit crazy. But I think I’m dead-on in this assessment.
How about you? How do YOU rate? (Books, that is.)
The Author Who Lost Me
July 26, 2025
Have you ever had this experience?
Picture it: One of your favorite authors has a brand-new book out, so naturally, you preorder it and spend the next days or weeks basically rubbing your hands together in anticipation like a little kid waiting for Christmas.
Finally, the book arrives, and you carve out some precious free time. This is one reading experience you plan to savor!
You curl up with the book and start reading, smiling at the familiar prose style or the author’s wit. But then . . . something happens.
The author starts talking about something you disagree with.
Now, I’m not talking about “his favorite color is blue, but I like red better.” I mean big stuff. Earth-moving, heavy-duty moral issues or beliefs that are as important to who you are as a human being as your underlying DNA. And the author—up to now, one of your favorite humans in the world—is clearly and firmly positioning him-/herself on the opposite side of the debate from where you stand.
What do you do?
It happened to me just last month when I went away for my mini-writing retreat. I brought with me the latest work by one of my favorite writers (who SHALL remain nameless). I was almost more excited to read the book than I was to have a few days of blessed free time alone to write and relax.
At least, I was that excited until I cracked open the book and found, right from page one, the author expounding on a political issue that made me instantly realize something: This person I’ve respected and followed for years . . . is a gigantic moron.
There was no other explanation. It was a nonfiction book, so I couldn’t write it off as “Oh, the character is just stupid.” No, no. In this case, the author WAS the character. And for the author to write what the author wrote in that opening chapter, the author could not possibly possess even a pair of fully functioning neurons. (Wow, is it bulky when you’re trying to avoid using pronouns!)
In just a few paragraphs, this author lost any trace of my respect. Suffice it to say, I won’t be buying (or reading) this author’s next book. In fact, this current book, unread past page two, has already been sent to the donation pile. I don’t have time to read the opinions of idiots.
My question is: Why do authors do this?
If you’re not running for office and have no official stake in the political game, why take a public stand on controversial topics when you know doing so will instantly alienate approximately 50% of your potential audience? It’s just not good business, and it’s not good writing. If your book is NOT about politics or current events, I shouldn’t be able to guess where you stand. If I can tell what you believe personally (as opposed to fictional characters, who can be as controversial as you like), you have screwed up big time.
Or maybe I’m wrong, and authors should boldly be using their work to take a stand even if it means declaring: “Screw the readers; I’ll write what I like.”
What do you think?
Where Inspiration Comes From
July 11, 2025
It’s been a stressful week. And yeah, a “normal” person (read: not me) probably wouldn’t have been the least bit affected by the events of the week, but I’ve been an anxious, OCD-riddled mess. Why? Because of a bird.
Yup, that’s right. A bird.
Let me take you back to last Sunday morning. I was outside around eight a.m. watering my garden (the source of the previous week’s animal-related stress, as I spent my days screaming obscenities at the obese, entitled groundhog that kept sneaking under the fence from my neighbor’s yard to eat my kale, parsley, and Brussels sprouts—the bastard!). As I turned to water some flowers on my deck, I caught some motion out of the corner of my eye and saw that it was a bird.
More specifically, it was a robin. Even more specifically, it was a young, fledgling robin. He (I have no actual idea as to the bird’s gender, but let’s keep things simple, okay?) could pop around, but he clearly could not fly.
Cue the anxiety, because now that I had SEEN the bird, according to all the laws of the nervous person’s universe, I was now responsible for the bird.
I put out some water for him, given that the temperatures were expected to approach 100 degrees that day. By mid-morning, I noticed him trying to squeeze through the chicken wire around my garden, because another robin—presumably, the baby’s mother—was inside it. She (no surprise) flew off as I approached, but I put on some gardening gloves (to avoid “bird germs;” I DID mention the OCD, right?) and gently set the baby inside the garden. There, at least, he was somewhat guarded from predators and had plenty of shade and shelter under my massive cucumber plants (which, I'm grateful to report, the fat groundhog has not yet begun eating).
For the rest of the day, I watched as the mother flew off and returned frequently to feed the baby. By Monday afternoon, some helpful sparrows had taught the baby robin how to squeeze through the gate and get out of the garden, to take shelter under my weeping pussy-willow tree, where the shade was better (and, I’m guessing, he would face fewer invasions by chunky groundhogs throughout the day).
Over the next few days, I kept leaving out water and even some crushed peanuts for him, fearing the mother might abandon the fledgling and wanting to provide some alternative food sources. Each night, as darkness fell, I worried. Would this be the night a cat or something even more terrifying discovered my little buddy? Each morning, when I spotted the fledgling, I was overjoyed to find him alive . . . and that happiness lasted approximately 30 seconds before my anxiety set in, along with the knowledge that there was a whole new day full of dangers to get through.
Fortunately, the mother robin continued to return, and even started offering her offspring flying lessons, which the little guy had some trouble with, though by just after dawn on Thursday, I noted that he was moving freely all over my yard, able to “fly” well enough to get up onto the willow’s retaining wall all on his own. As I headed to my office to start work that morning, I took one last look at the baby and mother having an intense flying lesson in the yard.
That’s the last I saw of them.
I don’t know where the baby robin went. Maybe a hawk got him, or maybe a cat sneaked into the yard despite my days of vigilance (though such predator attacks tend to leave . . . well, evidence . . . and I saw none of the telltale signs, to my relief). Maybe, just maybe, he finally figured out how to use those little wings and took off, with his mother, to live his life. That’s what I’m choosing to believe.
Now, you might be wondering why I’ve bothered to tell this long, drawn-out tale about birds, seeing as I’m supposed to be a writer-slash-editor and not a birdwatcher or ornithologist. And that’s the whole point: In the midst of all the stress and worry, the obsessive checking on the little bird as often as I could step away from my desk, I realized something: There’s a story there. It’s a children’s book, and I can’t wait to start writing it.
So no, I’m not a birdwatcher. I’m just a writer who's always on the lookout for a story, and my bird stress provided the perfect inspiration. I took a terrible, worry-filled week and turned it into material. Because that, my friends, is what we writers do!
June 23, 2025
One Sentence a Day Revisited
A few years back, when I was working as a writing coach (in addition to my job as editor in chief at Blydyn Square Books), I wrote a blog post that got a lot of people talking (well, a lot of people for ME, anyway). It was my take on the never-ending debate between writing “experts” who say writers absolutely must write every single day and those who say flexibility (and self-kindness) is king.
Last week, while I was on a short writing trip (more on that in another post soon!), I bought two books of writing advice (yes, I still buy and read such books, even after authoring one myself!). And, of course, I quickly discovered that the two different authors were offering precisely opposite advice on the matter.
Seeing as the debate is still going strong, I thought now might be a good time to dust off my old post—which, I think, strikes an excellent balance between the rigid “everyday writing” faction and the opposing “loosey-goosey” school of thought.
So here it is:
Lately, I’ve been seeing a lot of discussion on social media among the writing community about whether writers should write every day or if that is an unrealistic goal that “shames” anyone who can’t find the time to do it.
I’d like to put in my two cents on the topic.
I’ve long supported the idea of writing every day—but probably not the way you might think.
As a busy person myself, I know how difficult—nay, impossible—it is to carve out the time every single day to sit down and spend hours cranking out entire chapters or fulfilling a set quota (like, say, 1,000 words).
I would never suggest that any writer force him-/herself to do this. To try to do so is a perfect recipe for burnout, and before long, writing will feel like a chore, not the thing you’ve dreamed about doing your whole life.
Instead, what I advocate is that you do your best to write at least ONE SENTENCE A DAY.
That’s it.
And before you start whining that it’s hard to write the “perfect sentence,” let me remind you: Nobody said anything about “perfect.” ANY sentence will do.
I readily admit that there have been days when my own one sentence for a given day was a mere single word: Recently, I recall a day when my “sentence” for the day was, “Wow!” Literally. Just one word.
What’s the point of writing if you’re only advancing your work by one sentence (or even one word), you might ask?
That’s easy.
Writing at least one sentence a day helps keep your head in your work in progress. It keeps your story (or memoir or whatever you’re writing) fresh in your mind. If nothing else, it adds a (miniscule) amount to your overall word count.
Most important, writing even one sentence a day makes you FEEL like a writer—and that’s something we could all use, especially at those too-frequent moments when we feel like everything we’re writing is garbage and it won’t be long before the world finds out we’re nothing but imposters.
Best of all, you can handle one sentence a day no matter how busy or sick or stressed out you are. (And if you CAN’T handle typing or scribbling the word Wow, like I did, to achieve this daily goal, you have MUCH bigger problems—ones I can’t help you with!)
I urge you to try it. One sentence a day may seem like nothing, but it adds up. Fast. Trust me. I’ve written my last 8 books using this method.
Sure, I write more than one sentence when I have time and feel up to it. But I never force myself to do more than that when life just isn’t cooperating.
It works.
In fact, I believe one sentence a day works so well that I think we should start a movement among the writing community: #onesentenceaday.*
To kick it off, I’ll be posting MY one sentence (or my FIRST sentence, if I happen to write more that day) on social media every day for the next year—no matter how bad that sentence is, or how out of context or disjointed. I’ll post it just to prove that it CAN be done.
And I invite you to join me.
There’s nothing more empowering for a writer than to write, and one sentence a day is the perfect way to get started.
*Note: I wrote this back when X was still Twitter and hashtags still mattered a lot more than they do now, but just because you don't necessarily need to use the hashtag to take part these days doesn’t mean the overall point isn’t just as valid now as it was then. Also note: I have, in fact, been posting my first sentence of writing (sometimes my ONLY sentence) every single day since I first published this original post back in 2018. Seriously. Check my Twitter/X profile (@CoachTaraT). It’s kinda nuts. 🙂
May 31, 2025
I'm super excited to share the news that writer Carrie Birde's first novel, A Small Tale of Uncommon Grace, is almost ready for publication (set to launch in September and already available for preorder).
I had the great pleasure yesterday to bring Carrie some advance review copies of her book. It's always a huge honor to be part of that special moment for a first-time author—definitely one of my favorite parts of my job!
Congratulations, Carrie! I'm so happy to be part of your literary journey!
April 4, 2025
Happy spring!
Just wanted to share the latest news: The rough sketches are starting to come in for my upcoming picture book, Oh No, Rosco!
Those of you who know me will recognize the name in that title right away: Rosco is my (not-super-well-behaved) dog. He's a chug (half pug, half chihuahua) who is full of attitude and definitely thinks he's a LOT bigger than he actually is.
I wrote the story way back in early 2019, less than a year after I first got Rosco (who was already 2 years old at the time). Unfortunately, the original illustrator I hired to draw the pictures for the book never got around to finishing the project.
As much as I hated wasting all that time, I didn't want to abandon the idea of the book, so, just recently, I approached Paul Hernandez, the extremely talented artist I've worked with on several projects, about taking on the work. As always, he jumped right in and has already started working on rough sketches. I'm excited to see how his creativity takes my story to the next level!
Below, you can get a sneak peek at the rough character studies for Rosco and me (I'm also posting a photo of the two of us, for reference). I'm thrilled to report that Paul was kind enough to make us both slimmer and cuter than we are in real life.
Stay tuned for more about when the book will be released. And if you're on the U.S. East Coast like we are, I hope you're enjoying this muggy, wet April weather! Until next time . . .
December 2024
I'm writing this from Lavallette, New Jersey, at my sister's shore house, looking out over the sunset on Barnegat Bay.
Normally, just being here, with some time to myself, over the holidays, with my favorite time of year (Christmas!) coming next week, would be enough to have me spinning with excitement. But today, I have even more to celebrate because . . . I just finished the first draft of the second book in my upcoming YA series of novels.
There's nothing like a little time alone, away from the usual routine and pressures, to get some real writing done.
Happy holidays!